On a completely different note from what I normally write about, a topic on my mind is what could be called the “Charlie Sheen syndrome.” While out last night with some friends, one was describing a friend of hers who seems to have the “Charlie Sheen Syndrome.” I stated that, maybe it was just jealousy on my part, but it seemed to be a rather superficial life-style. While as a Christian I should not be judgmental of others, I can’t understand why this would even be appealing to someone. Can you?
While not my cup of tea, I perhaps can understand why partying a lot, doing massive amounts of drugs and having sex with many different beautiful women would be appealing to a man, but only for a time. It’s one thing to “sow your wild oats” while young, but at some point wouldn’t it become rather superficial, and actually boring? An analogy would be candy versus substantive food. In moderation, candy tastes great, but not only would a diet of nothing but candy be unhealthy, wouldn’t it begin to lose its appeal? At some point, meat and potatoes would be preferable to another Reese cup!
A larger issue than just the Charlie Sheen Syndrome is what some see as the general moral degradation of our society. When I try to explain to my daughter that there used to be an unflattering, four letter word for girls who acted and dressed like Madonna, she retorts that, “every generation thinks the next one has loose moral standards.” She references the outrage of Elvis, “shaking his pelvis.” Is she right? Am I just being an old fuddy-duddy? Is dressing and acting like Madonna empowering to women? I just don’t see it that way. Isn’t a woman having to use her body and sexuality as the only way to get power what we want to get away from as a society?
I have a female friend who admires what she sees as Madonna’s strength and independence. I guess I prefer the Oprah method. Women acting as morally and sexually reprehensible as do some men, does not seem like progress.
While not big on following the gossip columns, it’s my general impression that Charlie Sheen was more looked down on than admired, which I think is encouraging. I do have one male friend who expressed admiration for Charlie’s lifestyle, but I think that was mainly bar-room banter. I have the feeling that if a Charlie Sheen type ever showed up on the doorstep wanting to date his beautiful two daughters, as in the country song, he would be inside cleaning his gun! Which is how I think it should be.
As the mother of two daughters, I worry that our society is becoming less protective of our young girls. And not only less protective, but giving them the wrong message that being promiscuous is O.K., even to be admired - ala Madonna. I know that the sexual revolution tried to portray the moral prohibition on being promiscuous as an outdated concept, as if God just made that up on a whim that could be ignored with no negative consequences. But to my way of thinking God, like all parents, does not make up rules just for the heck of it, but to keep us safe because He cares about our well-being.
To look at Charlie Sheen’s life through the eyes of the women involved, I feel bad for them. One girl interviewed said she hoped to have sex with him by the end of the night because after all, he is Charlie Sheen! As a mother, it makes me sad that a young girl would have such low esteem as to crave attention that way. My girls heard of a girl whose claim to fame was having had sex (in real life) with “Puck” from the tv show Glee. Like Charlie Sheen, I guess he is considered attractive, but probably also a walking STD swamp – hope they used a condom!
In addition to the danger of catching a STD, being promiscuous also can lead to unwanted pregnancy, which can lead to another danger for girls – an abortion. Even if a girl escapes physical harm from an abortion, there is always psychological harm – a fact that the “pro-choice” people ignore.
Hopefully the pendulum of the sexual and drug revolution has reached its zenith of going in the wrong direction, and will now start to swing back to a healthier place for society.